Monday, December 21, 2020

What I Read: 2020 Books of the YEAAAAAAR




As of this post, I have read 103 books this year-- not my best year. In fact, it's my lowest number of books since I made the resolution to read 100 books way back in 2013. Since I started setting reading goals, I have read 1115 books, or 159 books/year. WOW!

Once again,. I read most of the titles that appear on this year's best of lists.  And, once again, I didn't pick most of those books. Some notable "best of"s that I enjoyed but have left off my list: The Vanishing Half, My Dark Vanessa, Mexican Gothic, Real Life, A Burning, The Glass Hotel, Rodham, Hood Feminism, Weather, Catherine House, Anxious People. Why are these missing below? I liked other books better.

Separation Anxiety by Laura Zigman: I adored this funny little book. It had me from the very opening line, and I randomly thought about-- and laughed about-- a couple of the incidents Zigman dreams up months after reading it. You will not find this on other best of lists, but I think you should.

Death in her Hands by Ottessa Moshfegh: Wow. This was a singularly dark and thoughtfully composed book. It was sad, funny, scary, and wholly original. I loved every carefully chosen word.

Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid: I read this early in the year but knew it was great. Not only is it an engaging plot, but Reid does an excellent job of untangling issues of race and class in a really engaging and deceptively breezy way.

The Jetsetters by Amanda Eyre Ward: I am a real sucker for the dysfunctional family on vacation dramedy. It might be my favorite escapist genre. This book is funny and sad and quirky with characters who are both entirely relatable and entirely original-- a difficult combination. 

A Good Neighborhood by Therese Anne Fowler:  Not only did this book keep my interest in miserable lat pregnancy, but I have thought about it several times since them, mostly while reading the newspaper. It's a sad story, and the characters are so realistic I feel like I know them and can imagine them living outside the book's pages.

Friends and Strangers by J. Courtney Sullivan: I continue to be a sucker for an author who can write totally different books. Her last one was historical fiction, and I loved it, too, but this book is very zeitgeist-y, and it does not disappoint. It is one of those books that I love where the main character is extremely unlikable but also extremely compelling. I am drawn to those characters in the best way.

The Book of Longings by Sue Monk Kidd: This book is wonderful. So sad and spare and lovely. Even though we all know how this story ends, the end of this book feels like a revelation. Reading this story was a gift.

Leave the World Behind by Rumaan Alam: ARE YOU KIDDING ME? This was so, so, so scary. Like SO SO scary. I think because it was so sparsely written, I was even more scared. And some of the images! Stayed with me for days. I also loved the attention to race and class, which often gets rung out of terrifying books.

The Night Watchman by Louise Erdrich: Confession: I love Louise Erdrich and would probably always put her books on my top 10. I love how the title of this one has multiple registers of meaning. I loved these characters and thought of them again and again after the book was over. I love the way Erdrich writes, so precisely, rendering whole characters with simple turns of phrase or neat little descriptors. This book is really wonderful, and it would be an excellent book club pick.

Transcendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi: This book is brilliant, and the characters have stayed with me for months. I admire this author so much. Her first book was a sweeping, multi-character history, and this one is a really granular look at one woman's life. She does a brilliant job of standing inside this one body and only knowing what her flawed character knows and sees. At the same time, she is able to let readers know how unreliable Gifty is at talking about herself and knowing her own motivations. I really loved this one.

Sunday, December 20, 2020

Terrible Holiday Movie Reviews

Holly Star, Netflix, 2018. This is tagline for this movie:  "Good news: buried treasure. Bad news: Near-death experience. It's hard out there for a puppeteer." What.  I mean. What.  Favorite part: The tagline. When the shark is always already jumped, you know what you are getting.

Holidate: Netflix, 2020: THIS IS AWFUL. Like a Bridesmaids kind of movie that is NOT FUNNY. But also not not funny enough to be actually funny, you know? Favorite part: Kristin Chenoweth, who is 52, dating a dude in his 30's.

Holiday in the Wild, Netflix 2019: Because I am postpartum, I love a move that allows me to sleep for large chinks and feel like I didn't miss a thing. THIS ONE IS PERFECT. This is a delightfully terrible movie. The characters are the barest sketches of people. The plot is the very thinnest of thin. Kristin Davis is a stay-at-home city vet who just has a knack for baby elephants! The safari company never has another client ever! College is a high school cafeteria and a laptop! You should watch this one, but not without a plan for a drinking game. Favorite part: Kristin Davis is GORGEOUS at 55, and she and Rob Lowe are the same age and look it. Most realistic thing about this movie.

Christmas Break-In, Netflix 2018: Delightfully terrible. No character is developed beyond like 3 words. This pitch meeting must have been like 45 seconds long. Santa drives a delivery truck. What do the workaholic parents even do at work? Why does the 9 year-old have an iPhone? Who closes school with a kid in it? How do you go from stealing coins to murder? What are the teens doing in that room and why do they call it a basement? The lead kid is adorable, though. Favorite part: Denise Richards has Lisa Rinna's face now.

Santa Girl: Netflix, 2019: This movie does a lot wrong (heteronormative patriarchy, namely) and a lot right (hilarious elf jokes, Santa's office looking like a title loan agency, snarky one-liners that are genuinely funny). I loved that the title character is normal-sized. Favorite part: everything about low-budget villain Jack Frost

Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey, Netflix 2020: This movie is darling. The songs are great. It's very pretty (and has an actual movie budget). The kids and I LOVED this one. Definitely NOT a terrible Christmas movie. Favorite part: Every song.

Godmothered, Disney +, 2020: This is only tangentially a Christmas movie, but it is adorable, and I think you should watch it. Jillian Bell is the cutest, and I love love love Isla Fisher (AKAK the pretty Amy Adams). Like Noelle, we loved the magic-person-in-real-life jokes (because Elf remains our all-time-favorite), and I was able to take a tiny nap and still follow along. How sad is it that I am at a stage in my life where that is a movie requirement? Favorite part: Gary the raccoon maid. Also that Jane Curtin and I have the same hairstyle.

The Happiest Season, Hulu, 2020: LOVED this one. It's really funny but also sweet, and I adore that it's a 2-girls-in-love story, which is missing from the Christmas movie landscape. Mary Steenburgen is a delight, and her IG feed at the end is worth the wait (her hashtags, bless her heart). Favorite part: TWO WORDS: Dan. Levy.

Noelle, Disney+, 2019: I am in love with this movie and everything about it. I teared up at the end. Not only will I watch it again with the kids, I will watch it every year. It's terrific and a cut above the others on this list-- no comparison, really. But what the hell is Shirley McLaine even doing in this movie? Favorite part: Anna Kendrick is a better Buddy than Will Ferrell. 

Just Another Christmas, Netflix, 2020: At first we were like OH MY GOD they couldn't even dub this movie right-- this is genuinely terrible-- JACKPOT. Then we were ,like, wait a second, is this even set in the US? And hang on are they speaking another language? Then we googled it. It's a Brazilian move and BRILLIANT, I cried. Watch this one!! Favorite Part: The dog made me laugh.

Friday, December 18, 2020

Tunic Tops and Sensible Flats: A Postpartum Wardrobe

 That title is a TOTAL LIE because I only wear bare feet.  That basically look like hooves because I have not had a pedicure since FEBRUARY. Isn't that just my luck? I was due for both a pedi and a haircut when the pandemic hit. And then! I missed the relatively safer numbers this summer because I was pregnant and avoiding EVERYTHING. SO now? Totally unkempt in every possible way.

Which brings me to the title of this post and my current wardrobe wants.

Like it or not, there are some times I need to NOT be wearing pajamas. Zooms, I am looking at you. But! I have a 4-month-old and the body that comes with it. SO! That brings me to TUNIC TOPS! My new solution for looking pulled together and also covering my muffin top. A MULTI-TASKER. And sorely needed since I lost 15 pounds before I got pregnant and sized down accordingly. And (global pandemic) haven't bought any -- like for real ANY-- new clothes.

Thanks to a partnership with this blog and Responsival, I found an amazing new shop that is woman-owned and uses sustainable materials AND has lovely, flowy tunics that are perfect for me right now.

I ordered the Audrey collared tunic, and I completely love it.

It's perfect with my favorite leggings (seriously-- these are GREAT) and the fabulous shoes I bought and HAVE STILL NOT WORN OUT OF THE HOUSE. Now all I need is another long open cardi. or two and I am set for the foreseeable. That sounds reasonable, right? Leggings, tunic, sweater repeat? I wish I were better at combinations and permutations so I could figure out exactly how many of this exact same look (lewk?) I need to get through until the tundra thaws in, oh, say, APRIL. At which point, I will switch to maxi dresses and sandals until it's time for-- you guessed it-- tunic season again. This way, I never have to lose weight or look at my thighs FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. I am a genius.

How cute is this packaging, though?

rockflowerpaper
And when I can leave the house again some day, I am going to LOVE these shoes!!
rothy's
Pulled together. Sort of! Which is as good as it gets, my friends.
tunic tops



Friday, December 11, 2020

Sleep Regression BOOOOOOOO

 Sweet, wonderful, PRESHUS, 17-week-old Minnie Marigold, she of the silly hairline, the champion side eye, the constant drool stream, the dimpled knuckles, is dipping her fat little toes into the water of the dread four month sleep regression. AND IT SUPER SUCKS.

She is not napping well, and this makes her REALLY ANGRY.

She is not going to bed well.

And? She is waking up every hour to latch on and have a snack. We're both feeling a little tired and crabby.

Also, my hormones took an abrupt turn for the stabby, and I am just waiting for my hair to start shedding. GORGEOUS. There are moments when Min is asleep, and I am inexplicably awake, which makes me SO MAD. Like hulk smash mad. Which, of course, DOES NOT HELP ME GO BAK TO SLEEP.

So. Minnie and I are tired. 

The end of the semester is very end-of-the-semester-y.

My plan is to take a nap with her this afternoon, so wish me luck.

Seriously, though. The benefit of having SO! MANY! BABIES! is that I know this is just a phase and she'll be back to her happy sleepy self in no time. If I didn't have this blog to record all of my whining, I wouldn't even remember it.

Speaking of whining, read my latest Madison Mom post HERE.

I am too tired at night to read Junie B with Dorothy, so we have been squeezing it into our afternoons.

LOOK HOW TIRED. And, conversely, how awake. Gah.
A quiet nap-tivity
OMG her hairline.
SIDE EYE QUEEN.
So little! So serious!
We have also been squeezing a walk in every afternoon-- can we keep it up when the weather takes a turn for the winter? STAY TUNED.


Monday, December 07, 2020

Quick pics

The new dishwasher is heeeeeeere!
Minnie loves this Moonjax teether from my mom
She's such a good co-worker (we were writing an answer key)
Cooper made muffins all by himself!
Can we talk for a second about the INSIDE of this dishwasher? Water bottle jets!
A third rack!
Has her dress on backwards. Does not care.
I took this pic after I thought I heard the baby and busted into her room where she was PUTTING HER OWN SELF TO SLEEP SILENTLY and ruined it.
Styling baby
I love this quilt that Bomma made
Santa baby
Hanukkah gifts under the treeeeeeee
Toofy. 

 

Wednesday, December 02, 2020

Ball and Chair

Our next door neighbors gave us tons  of baby toys, and Minnie's very favorite is this delicious ball.
Seriously, though. All I do is take pictures of Minnie in her chair.
Wearing American Girl sunglasses
My favorite old pajamas of Cooper's.
Such a sweet napper
The kids made these with no help from me



Aaand we are back to that delicious ball
And chair.

 

Tuesday, December 01, 2020

November: What I read

 I didn't read a lot, and while this not reading made me sad, I also couldn't get myself to read. I blame Plain Bad Heroines which I did not like but could not stop reading. WHY can I not stop reading books I hate? GAH.


Plain Bad Heroines by Emily Danforth: Hated it.

The End of October by Lawrence Wright: This is so scary!! About a global pandemic. You should read it.

Ready Player Two by Ernest Cline: I did not love this. But also it is pretty awesome.

Want by Lynn Strong Steger: I LOVED this! So compelling and suspenseful even though it's just about normal life.

The Distant Dead by Heather Young: YOU GUUUUUYS! Read this one.