Calendar dramz

 Turns out, if you want your planner routine to do all the things for you, you have to USE YOUR PLANNER. SO WEIRD, right? 

Engie came to the pool with me so we could talk about a book we both read, and we started also talking about the Pop Sugar reading challenge, and you guys! I check in with that challenge shortly before the start of each new month when I fill out my paper monthly planner, something I started doing on SHU's recommendation to see all of my work days at a glance so I could tell how much deep work time was available to me each month. 

But! 10 days into August, and I had not even cracked that guy. SO, I did my monthly lay out last might and noticed important things. Like, for example, Harry's move-in day is when I have a dentist appointment AND a video visit with my doctor. Grrrrrr. That's because Harry's move in day is NOT a weekend day at all-- which is something I could have known from the Google calendar, but is the kind of thing that really only sinks in for me when I plot my month on a grid. GAH. (I put it on the cal for 8/29 even though it was 8/31, and he said 8/31, but I just assumed that was a Saturday and didn't really check which is on me but also would not have happened ON PAPER)

(Also, maybe I should do the Pop Sugar challenge tracking digitally next year-- this year I am going old school with a print out...)

(Also also, I usually plan the upcoming month with my Friday weekly planning on the last Friday of the current month, but I have not really been doing my Friday afternoon planning because I am usually at the pool on Friday afternoons and I cram the weekly spread layout into another time slot-- but apparently the August monthly overview sesh got lost in the shuffle. Blah)

(I have been way better about using a planner this summer than previous summers, and things have been smoother because of it, work included, but I need to reschedule my time next summer knowing that the when and how of my nitty gritty planning schedule need to be adjusted, not just ignored).

Speaking of college move in! We got a brief reprieve on Jack's leave date thanks to his dorm room not being ready yet. He planned to move in a week early on 8/16 to be on campus for the speech team work week, but! He is living in a newly renovated dorm (because he is a kid who is ON TOP of things like housing lotteries unlike other kids I know in my house), and it just will not quite be ready that day. Instead, he is getting temporary housing and going to Peoria with Ben for work week-- then we get to go move him in on official move -in day on 8/23. Yay! More Jack! I am also excited to do the move n the big day because it's always so festive and exciting, and he can move in the same day as his roommate. Harry's freshman roomie had been living in their room for a week already for band camp, and it was weird.

Meanwhile, Harry moves in on a freaking MONDAY, which is annoying to me, but will also be fun and more lowkey because he is a junior in the dorms-- which is a thing at his school. Upperclassmen typically still live on campus, and not a ton of kids stay in Eau Claire for the summer. When I was in school, juniors and seniors lived in old falling down houses around campus and paid rent all summer long. But we were Gen X and used to our parents not knowing where the hell we were from the time we were little kids staying out til dark and hydrating with our neighbors' garden hoses. He does want to live in student apartment housing on campus next year and stay there all summer, which is not something I am prepared to contemplate at this moment-- the pool would be weird without him there is all I am saying.

Jack and me accidentally twinning at the bank-- where we went to get a credit card for Jack because I totally forgot about kids needing credit scores at some point in their young adult lives-- don't make my same mistake, sartorial or financial, guys.

Summer slide

 

We closed down the pool on Saturday, and it was lovely.

We were minus Harry and Jack, who went to a Madison Mallards baseball game/euchre tourney (Jack's bday gift to Harry), so Cooper and Dorothy both brought friends, and we ate garbage from the golf course restaurant.

After our bar trivia win on Thursday, Ben and I went out with friends for a fancy dinner on Friday, so I ate out and had drinks three nights in a row, which is not my usual style. But was fun!! Also the place has its own hydroponic lettuce supply, so I had a salad and I hope I don't live to regret it.

Less than 12 hours later, Ben and I were on a trail run. Woof.

And!! We took Jack to Costco for a stock up because he moves in to his dorm in SIX DAYS YOU GUYS OMG.

Summer 2026 went by in a blink for me. The little kids still have the whole month off, but I start TA meetings on the 19th.  Dorothy is done with summer dance try outs on the 20th, and Harry moves in on the 29th-- how'd we get here so fast?

Awegust

 

Oh, August! The kids** have NO SCHOOL this month, and Dorothy wraps up her dance team try outs on 8/20. Cooper has the entire month off from diving (new club starts 8/31), and Minnie has suddenly declared she wants to be on a club swim team, so she's doing some tryouts this month to prepare. Harry doesn't start class until 9/2, and he doesn't move in until the very last weekend of the month.

**JACK THOUGH DOES have school this month because Illinois is early. He moves to Peoria on AUGUST 16 you guys that is so soooooooon.

I have registered the 3 k-12-ers for school. We have a attended a high school sports kickoff meeting and joined the booster club (yes we did have 2 other varsity athletes. No we never did either of these things before-- Coop is ALL IN).  High school registration happens next week with a sports physical, an ID picture, and a schedule, and I assume the other schools will be in touch with back-to-school events-- because of course they will.

My summer class ends today, and we are going to spend as much time doing THIS as is humanly possible.

Yesterday was our TWENTY-FIRST anniversary and we WON bar trivia as a team of two!!

Cheers to August and onward to Minnie's 6th bday!! NEXT WEEK!!!!

Feeling funky

 Ugh I feel so scattered and crabby. I have barely been reading, and my stack of library books is starting to feel very judgy. I have barely taken any pictures, even! 

Part of it is a let down from All City-- it really was sort of all-consuming there for a hot second. 

Some of it is the change-up at Cooper's dive club and not really knowing what that experience is going to be like after 4 seasons with his old club.

Then there is just the general schedule uncertainty for fall--we have no idea what Dorothy's schedule will be, and Minnie is trying out for a swim team. 

Jack moves out in 11 days. ELEVEN DAYS. And Harry right after. And neither of them will be around to close down the pool, and that just feels wrong.

So. Anyway. That's why I have been MIA, not just the utter insanity of my schedule-- but that, too.

I need more of this:

And also this:

Grocery shopping seasons

 Ahhhh, grocery shopping.

 For literal YEARS I was ordering a Metro Market pick up order very single Sunday-- before the panny, even. I liked the app, enjoyed the money off on gas, and had a pretty routine grocery order. Over the years, we also shopped at a variety of other places-- Costco, Whole Foods, Aldi, Trader Joes-- it all depended on our schedule and menu, etc. We usually ended up with a Metro Market order to pick up, a Target order to pick up, and a visit to another store as well every Sunday.

 It has been hard for us to be one-store shoppers-- but that is, sort of, the dream.

Metro Market has been getting SO expensive, though, since January 2025. The app still gives access to good coupons, but the everyday prices are increasingly bad. I would run in the store midweek and spend over $100 no matter what I was buying. Ben and I even started grocery shopping in person because our usual $300 grocery order was getting smaller and smaller every week, and we wanted to see what the heck was going on in there.

We realized that right now, when we have a teeny bit of schedule margin on the weekends, we like grocery shopping together. It's fun to go on a run and then go to the store.

For a couple of weeks, we went to Aldi then Costco right after-- but this was inconvenient because we needed to go to another store to get name brand stuff, so we either added it onto a Target pick up or still found ourselves at Metro Market.

This was not only super expensive, but it was also just kind of a bummer. Our Metro Market store is old and small and dim and ... not fun to shop.

So, we've (temporarily?) switched our loyalty to Hy-Vee, which is big and bright, and airy and pleasant. And sooooooo expensive. But! Sometimes, we can only shop there with no need for Costco at all, so maybe, eventually it will be more convenient AND more pleasant?

We have fun exercising early and going straight to the store. Our store has a dietician, and there is a rack of recipe cards at the front of the store, which is clutch when I have holes on my weekly menu calendar. When Ben was out of town with Cooper, I did online shopping from HyVee and was charmed by the meal suggestions on the website, too (I decided I did want pork chops, potatoes, and green beans and rigatoni with peppers and lean ground beef in a jar of premade sauce, plus broccoli and crusty bread).

A money saver? No. But I can pay with Apple Pay and get 2% back! More fun? YES. And! Minnie found the style of cake she's like for her bday party (in 11 days **gulp**)

August GOALS **strong emoji**

 

Some of these are silly. Some of these are aimed at instilling good habits before the back to school schedule punches us in the face. (We do not go back to school until September! YAY!). Some of them are honestly stuff I just have to do, so why not get the dopamine hit of checking a little box?

Caveats/ tl;dr:

I am not concerned about sticking to a certain calorie goal on MFP, but I do want to track every single thing I eat (even the stuff I wish I hadn't) and see where I am at in terms of calories in. I also want to eat 100 grams of protein and 25-30 grams of fiber every day, so it will be helpful to track these things. It would be so nice to know what's maintenance for me, versus a starve and binge cycle that is probably actually maintenance calories but makes me feel like crap.

The new restaurant is a chain, and I know that makes me the most basic bitch ever.

The Apple Pay goal was OG something about not buying coffee on campus, but I have TA training at the end of the month, and I know myself.

I have always been a slow waker, but these past few years walking with Minnie have made me someone who just sort of oozes along like a freaking glacier. I need to  NOT lag blocks behind my fam when we are out and about. I am going to start by picking up the pace on dog walks and move on to walking from my parking garage to my office in 5 minutes or less.

July: What I Read

Here are my July reads, in order from least favorite to most favorite. The top 3 this month are EXCELLENT.

📓🥳When I Kill You by BA Paris: Totally meh thriller.

📓🥳Meet the Newmans by Jennifer Niven: Meh.

🎧Parable of the Talents by Octavia E. Butler: The firs tone was way better and can stand alone.

🎧The Nine Lives of Rose Napolitano by Donna Freitas: I read this on Nicole's recommendation and liked it.

📱🥳Villa Coco by Andrew Sean Greer: Adorable, but not as good as Less

📓🥳Land by Maggie O'Farrell: Exactly why everyone loves her.

🎧🥳Molka by Monika Kim: So weird and good.

🎧🥳Sipsworth by Simon Van Booy: So spare! So sweet!

📱🥳Down with the Shipmans by Meg Mitchell Moore: Liked but did not love this summer family saga.

📓🥳The Shampoo Effect by Jenny Jackson: Perfect summer read.

🎧Commencement by J. Courtney Sullivan: LOVED IT.

📱🥳Girl Dinner by Olivie Blake: YES YES YES.

🎧🥳The Reservation by Rebecca Kaufmann: I adore her.

📱🥳Whistler by Ann Patchett: YOU GUYS.