Saturday, May 16, 2026

I am FOUR DOZEN: intentions and reflections

 What a fun birthday!!

My last dog walk as a 47-year-old


I made myself the most ridiculous Snickers cheesecake and ate it for breakfast


Sunglasses from the children (to replace one that one of them borrowed and accidentally ran over)

Ben and I had lunch together and went shopping in the cutest little town



I had a fun afternoon collecting bday freebies and discounts





And we ended the night with a toast
Yay 48! I am looking at four dozen roses as I write this and thinking about some intentions for this year. I just read Big Timeand you absolutely should, too, because it made me feel optimistic about the amount of time I have to spend and excited about all the ways I could spend it.

Some things I want to do this year:
1. Say YES more often, especially when the thing sounds a little scary. (Look for me in a crowded Chicago elevator and on a dinner cruise with a bunch of teen/tween girls next month, for example)
2. Practice radical kindness-- like as a default frame. (Spoiler: this is not my current default frame in any area). How nice would it be to take care of myself from this frame? (Like in a Foucauldian sense of rhetoric that cares for the self, not, like, a lot of bubble baths). Seriously, though. Think about running and lifting weights and eating foods to fuel your body from a place of radical kindness to yourself-- how great is that frame? And then when you apply it to interactions with others? I mean.
3. Run by 7:30 most* mornings. I feel better when I exercise at the start of the day even at the expense of resting, so I want to spend this whole year prioritizing that feeling. What is "most" though? NOT SURE. I am also really into the don't-break-the-chain mentality and am afraid that if I have a few late mornings, I will abandon the whole project. One thing I have going for me is that I HATE to be hot, so early mornings are going to be my best bet this summer, and in the fall/winter, I will basically have no choice.
4. Notice when I catch myself complaining and figure out how to make the situation better. While time is plentiful, it is also precious, and I want to spend this year developing a problem solving framework as opposed to more of an bitch-and-moan framework. I really hate our current job situation with Ben in an entirely different state most of the week.  As we seek solutions, I can't just write off these years or lose them to a litany of complaints. So, I am going to notice what bothers me and fix it, in a very Rosie the Riveter, yes-I-can sort of way,.

Highlights from 47:
Discovered these most amazing eye patches that have transformed my life for the better
Saw fam in Madison
Celebrated a preschool grad
Went to Charleston with Dorothy

Lots of pool days
Grew out those fucking bangs
Sent Minnie off to kindergarten!!
Marigold Fest!

Fam pics!
Coffee Fridays with Dorothy and Cooper
Bradley Homecoming
One more visit to my mom's office before she retired
Ran our first 5K
Successfully repped our favorite side dishes
 Ran another 5K
Rang in 2026 on our favorite beach

Volunteered every week in kindergarten
Saw lots of dive meets
Jack's senior prom!






13 comments:

  1. Awww, what a great year, Sarah!

    I am loving your thoughts on radical kindness, especially toward the self. Would love to hear about your progress.

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  2. Happiest of birthdays to you! That birthday dessert looked amazing! The past year was full of so many great milestones! Here’s to an equally amazing year to come!!

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  3. Happy birthday! I love those intentions, Sarah.

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  4. Radical kindness! Excellent. Happy Birthday!

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  5. Always excited to hear someone reference rhetoric and Foucault! And I love the idea of radical self-kindness. Radical kindness is also great, but wow to think about it starting with yourself! I have a couple of months before I will be two shy of five dozen and it is starting to shock me to say that! But, I love this post and the reminder to go out and get all those freebies! :) Happy birthday! Hope you have another great year and the problem solving for the work away from home goes well.

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  6. Came back to comment on your bangs. I thought they were so cute, but OMG, every time I get them I love them for 15 minutes and then cannot wait to grow them out. I have to remind myself of this every time I consider it, because gosh they would cover up my forehead, which is not looking great these days. My daughter has had them for many years and loves hers.

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  7. Anonymous6:40 AM

    Happy birthday!!!!! May this year bring even more happiness!
    Also, radical kindness twd yourself is gold.
    Daria from NJ

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  8. happy birthday!!!! It's gonna be a good year for you, I can TELL!

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  9. Happy Birthday! I love that you celebrated it in style, and I also love your intentions for the year. It's going to be a good one!

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  10. Anonymous9:36 AM

    Hooray for the Four Dozen with little kids club! I just turned four Dozen also and I'm referring to it that way from now on. I feel VERY OLD with my third grader who BTW just broke her wrist, 19 days before her dance recital and 9 days before we fly to Iowa!

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  11. I read somewhere lately "Don't complain about the same thing twice" and it's been a nice reminder for me.

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  12. Happy birthday, Sarah! Sounds like a lovely birthday! And you set some great intentions for the new year!

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  13. Happy birthday!

    I am trying to be intentional about saying yes more often, too.

    I also briefly contemplated getting bangs again but then I remembered it's hot here and I sweat from my hairline FIRST, so bangs are just a bad idea all around.

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